Thinking about giving the roommate the boot!

Man oh man, at the age of 23 should I really be dealing with a man-child?

My boyfriend and I have a roommate, and I think it's finally coming to the point of kicking him out.

He's the same age as us, but he definitely acts like an irresponsible, lazy teenager. He doesn't help out at all around the apartment, except once in a blue moon when he decides to clean the bathroom or do his dishes... and then deludes himself into thinking that WE'RE the lazy ones because he spent one afternoon cleaning... when my boyfriend and I are cleaning and cooking and doing dishes every day AND working full-time. He lives on take-out pizza, so of course he doesn't have as many dishes to do.

This morning I left him a note in the bathroom to clean up his beard shavings off the sink (gross), and I put it very nicely. So he decides to leave us a really passive-aggressive note about it (which I haven't read yet) and go out with his friends.

He's a perfectly pleasant human being (most of the time)... but I am really getting sick of living with him. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I feel like it's time for him to go.

I don't know the purpose of this post, aside from ranting... but feel free to share your terrible roommate experiences. Maybe it'll make me feel better.

yeah i would have to agree with you if he isnt pitching in and helping out for his share then its time for the boot, or you guys could sit down and try to talk to him and see if maybe he changes but if not boot his butt out! I mean he is probably used to it now because he knows he can get away with it. I would try to have a "house" meeting and then if he still doesnt change his way then do what you have to do!

GOOD LUCK!

You have my sympathies - I could not cope with bathroom sink grot, especially not somebody else's! Sounds like because you're the 'couple' in the house he thinks of you as 'parents' of the house, and as such he doesn't feel responsible for cleaning up after himself? Unless you badly need the money, I say send him back to his mother!!

My last roomie before my hubby and I moved in together was awful, he closed all the doors, windows and curtains, sat on the internet, smoked all day and night, had a dog and never walked him, just let him go on the balcony, and when I went away for 6 weeks...came home and the same dishes he had in the sink were still there...and all the dog crap on the balcony too. I moved out of course, but found out later that he had been telling everyone what I pig I was, an how he had to support me for so long...(I was in an accident and hospitalized out of town for a few weeks, so he covered one months rent, which I repaid) Yeah...I am never having a roomie or tenant again...

Wooo-eee Sounds like you have a fun one there! Sorry about your frustration.

I had one who would walk right on in my bedroom, open my closet, put on my clothes, jewelry, etc.. and walk right on into the bathroom and use my makeup. And when spoken to about it, she literally could not comprehend that what she was doing wasn't ok. She also gave my kids caffeine, which isn't allowed.

She had some weird aversion to cotton, like she would scream and hide in a corner if you tried to touch her with a cotton ball, so my exhusband filled her car with cotton balls.

make up a chore chart so that everyone can see the division of labour is fair and then ask him to stick to it. If he refuses then he's not just blind to what's needing to be done, but willfully taking advantage.

Helena, great idea!

It's a shame to have to do that. I use chore charts for my children! But I think it is a good idea because it will bring the topic to light and provide a visible log for his actions (or lack thereof).

I wouldn't even fool with his immature behaviour, I would just go ahead and kick him and his belongings out the door. I've found that people like him never change, they will forever be like that. He's useless, lazy, and a slug...if he wanted to help out and act like an adult should, he would have already done it...but no, he's going to write YOU a note. He needs to grow up and get a life!

[quote="thefacepaintlady"She also gave my She had some weird aversion to cotton, like she would scream and hide in a corner if you tried to touch her with a cotton ball, so my exhusband filled her car with cotton balls. [/quote]

This made me crack up!!!

So Janna, what's become of the roommate?

Life is too short to surround yourself with people like that. There are always more roommates to be had if you're dependent on the rent help. You don't even need to reason with him why he's being "let go." Just say it isn't working out but you wish him the best and give him a deadline to move out by.

Sorry guys - I accidentally forgot about my own thread LOL.

Thank you for all your responses, it is strangely comforting to hear about other's terrible roomies...

Anyway, as for mine, we're on okay terms for now I guess. After the note fiasco, my boyfriend had a very firm talk with him and we were on grumpy terms for a couple days. He was good with doing dishes for a couple days after that, but now he's already returned to his bad habits. He's had dishes in the sink for about a week now... SIGH.

Luckily, my boyfriend and I should be moving out in a couple of months. We're going to be renting out his dad's house for super cheap! He's having trouble selling it, so he decided he would let us rent it instead. It's going to be a huge step-up from our current tiny apartment... and we're certainly not taking the roommate with us! So I just have to grit my teeth and bare it for a few more months, then we'll part ways. I kind of need the extra rent money for now, so I'll deal with him a bit longer...

Put his dirty dishes on his bed. He'll get the message.

I once lived in a condo building and this one guy would smoke like crazy right on the front stoop. No biggie, but he threw his butts all over the place. Pretty gross. One night after a couple of glasses of wine, I'd had enough. I went our and picked up every butt I could find and put them right outside his door. I didn't see another one on the stoop after that.

-Metina

Metina wrote:Put his dirty dishes on his bed. He'll get the message.

Brilliant idea!

Metina wrote:Put his dirty dishes on his bed. He'll get the message.

I once lived in a condo building and this one guy would smoke like crazy right on the front stoop. No biggie, but he threw his butts all over the place. Pretty gross. One night after a couple of glasses of wine, I'd had enough. I went our and picked up every butt I could find and put them right outside his door. I didn't see another one on the stoop after that.

-Metina

Hahaha, I've thought about doing that! My boyfriend always stops me though...

Metina wrote:Put his dirty dishes on his bed. He'll get the message.

I once lived in a condo building and this one guy would smoke like crazy right on the front stoop. No biggie, but he threw his butts all over the place. Pretty gross. One night after a couple of glasses of wine, I'd had enough. I went our and picked up every butt I could find and put them right outside his door. I didn't see another one on the stoop after that.

-Metina

ROFL! Metina, you're cracking me up...that's just the sort of thing I would do!